Every relationship is a gamble?

This is not a question. It's an idea of mine which I would like some feedback on.





We humans are social creatures. We create bonds with our family and friends. But I wondered, why? Why do we create these bonds? Why do we make the conscious effort to go out and put ourselves on the line to make bonds with other people even when people can be hurtful? Finally, I understood that there are two potential outcomes when one builds a relationship, two possible reactions. One is what many people hope for, love. Love is in a sense, an emotionally generated dream. Love allows us to forget and ignore all the wrongs and frustrations and complications of living. We humans are addicted to it, and so we build relationships in search of love. The other possible outcome of a relationship is rejection, misery, emptiness, all bad feelings that lead to loneliness and pessimism. We feel this when what we expect and what we desire from an individual does not hold true. When you find out your best friend cheated on you with your girlfriend/boyfriend, you are devastated, because based on past experiences that should not have happened. That is where my next point comes in. Past experiences give us the information to make an effective decision on whether to develop a relationship with someone or not. Relationship are, in a sense, almost like a probability, you take the number of times the specific person has put out love under certain circumstances and compare it to the number of times they have rejected it under certain circumstances, and you take an educated guess on the persons outcome, you place your bet on the horse expected to win. Only problem is, most often times, these assessments of individuals are not always true. For the most part, they are opinions, opinions based on past experiences stretching back since birth. For instance when you are learning about an individual, you judge that person based on your previous experiences with their specific age, gender, race, social class, culture, etc. After that, you base your judgments on what you have discerned from people you are already in a reliable relationship with, your family and friends for instance. And lastly, you make your judgments on personal experience. These 3 levels of judgment are prevalent in every first encounter, and each level has its own level of influence. Race, gender, age, etc, is the initial stage, but the least influential in deciding whether a relationship can be built. After that are friends and family, then personal experience. But for the most part, everyone has met betrayal many times in everyone of these categories, so how do they compensate for it? Trust. Trust allows peoples to confront their past experiences and determine that these individuals are different. Trust is either respected or betrayed. People who are betrayed to many times often times simply do not engage in relationships at all. They take the safer route because although they do not receive any love, they don't receive pain either. On the other side of the spectrum, people who aren't conflicted with enough betrayals become too trustworthy and open. The do not have the past experiences to protect them from harmful individuals. This has become a big problem for modern day children and those children who are coming of age today. As a result of their helicopter parents who protected and shielded them from all betrayals and disappointment, they have become weak. They are too dependent on others and if ever this were compromised, they would be hopeless. So every relationship is a gamble, a choice to go all or nothing, love or rejection. For me, I prefer the safe route, but some cannot exist without love. It is definitely hard. However, if we can make the proper assessments, we can learn to be emotionally strong individuals capable of both receiving love and dealing with rejection.


Every relationship is a gamble?
Everything in life is a risk to a certain extent. Love is a big gamble. But, if you don't ever take that risk, then you'll never know what could have been.


Risky or not, it's a risk worth taking.Every relationship is a gamble?
When we see past race, gender, and age, and other physical extremeties, then we realize that we should not judge for the hope of being right, but instead we should keep an open-mind for the hope that we are wrong.





When I see someone I say, ';I want to know that person, not because they are different or the same, but because they are themselves.';





Now we go to the whole, when are we really ourselves?


If we fake ';to be something we are not'; are we not actually being ourselves, for it is ourselves that allow us to ';adopt'; another ';persona'; unlike our normal one.





Everything is a gamble, simply being born was a gamble, simple living the next day is a gamble, simply eating, walking from the house is a gamble. We cannot see the future so how can we be so sure a meteor will not hit Earth tomorrow? Because we make predictions and assume a meteor has some kind of forewarning? Well then, we then assume we know all that there is to know in the universe. Is it not possible some knew destructive entity in the cosmos can defy our laws of physics and essentially rip us apart in a half second without our knowing? Of course it is, is it likely? We hope it is not, but it is.





Your try to evaluate love and emotions as if you are the scientists laying back in his chair not worrying about a rock from space hitting the Earth... well then, good luck.
no pain no gain





what doesn't kill you can only make you stronger