Why do women expect guys to feed their egos?

Its in all the advice coluums, all the magazines, everywhere you look. How to make your girlfriend feel sexy. How to get her to want you. How to keep her happy. Excuse me? Why do I have to do anything special to keep her happy? Do women ever by a guy flowers for no reason? Even with a reason? Do women ever offer to take a guy out for supper for no reason? Why do we have to do stuff to keep you happy? Can't you just be happy? Stop feeling so sorry for yourself because you are a woman!! Guys have to deal with lots of stuff too. It isn't easy to be us. But I don't read any articles about how to make your man feel better about his expanding waistline. Or how to tell him his baldness is sexy. We suck it up and go about our day. Why? Because we are men...number one. and we are ADULTS....number two. Their are too many little girls out there trying to pass themselves off as adults. Why is this? Why do you need us to tell you how pretty you are? How smart you are..grow upWhy do women expect guys to feed their egos?
I do agree that women should not need men to tell them this and that or that women should be dependent on men about how they feel about themselves.





And I also agree that some people should grow up. Self-confidence is for adults. It doesn't come by easy. It is learned through trials and challenges in life.





As for being fat and bald and going about your way, that is a man thing. Men can get up in the morning, not brush their teeth, or even look at the mirror. Tell me if a fat and bald woman should be happy, without her husband telling her how he feels about her. People are not perfect. But they may be perfect to someone else's eyes. But she's not psychic so he would have to at least word it out.





My point is, it's a two way street. Women and men are different. But opposite's attract.They have different needs and wants. And men and women should find someone that can fulfill them or make them complete. Occassionally, we all have questions or doubts about ourselves. Self-image is an important part of life. It comes from how people treat us and how we treat ourselves.





As for flowers, men are known not to be fond of flowers. But women have bought flowers for men before. And really, the big picture is, men are usually not fond of the things that women are fond of. But they have something in common; they both need attention from time to time.





If someone makes you happy, it should be easy to buy flowers occassionally. She might be happy just knowing she makes you happy. But what exactly separates ordinary animals from humans in the case of romantic relationships? How do people tell or remind their significant others what words can't express? It's really up to individuals. Flowers? Chocolate? Holding her close?





I think the problem here is simply recognizing the difference between dealing with an insecure ***** and giving the right woman your attention.Why do women expect guys to feed their egos?
Because of the Council of Trent
All our girl mags they tell us to do the same for you boys
its part of human being wants.
MOST women are very insecure and need constant reassurance from men that we are pretty enough, we look good enough in this or that...that we are still attractive in your eyes.


men think with their minds and women think with their hearts (which is why a lot of women might answer this trying to say something to hurt your feelings and give me thumbs down for exposing them). a lot of women just don't realize that if they weren't attractive in your eyes anymore you wouldn't be with them.
thats just the way itis
LOL!!





I can't believe you went there!





Gutsy post!
oh yeah! I just about had an moargasm.


I agree with this.
Well, we men do all this because it shows one of two things....One your scum who only wants to get in her pants or Two you love her enough you are willing to let go of your dignity for her....I'm the Second one :
|A ha ha ha ha...thats funny.Everyone, male and female need to be praised and complimented...even you.
Wow you have a point well said! yeah we should definetely grow up and stop expecting you guys to lift us up i mean you guys suck it up and dont worry about stupid **** like your appearance and trying to be perfect you just suck it up and act like adults. I just had a moment of truth! much obliged





I mean those same magazine are directed at women too just as well as men but guys dont get all seriouse about it and put so much emphasis on crap like that. geez!
OMG you are so obviously a guy. Girls do the same for guys, in different ways though. You notice how much pressure society (especially men) put on women. You don't have to shave your legs, your armpits, your pubs, were makeup, and act a certain way. Notice if a girl sleeps around it is frowned upon, but If a guy gets around it means he's cool. WTF!





and secondly, girls always hav to get reassurance from guys what they are thinking and how they are feeling because guys never open up. Guys are animalistic cheaters and pathological liars.
lol. this is hilarious. this is making some sense to me. maybe thats why my bf (whom i broke up with last night, cos i feel he doesnt love me) always say i'm expecting too much from him. sigh.. i dunno. so what? you just want us girls to be there for you only when you need it? girl wants to be happy, they cant just be happy having lazy bfs who cant be bothered to make them happy right.





i think there is are bfs who cant be bothered to make the girl happy and there are bfs who wish they can everything to make the girl happy. i dunno.. i'm making myself confused. ****.
cuz thats how its is
its just likee that. i mean, everyone expects for guys to be the ones who arent needyy. so wat if yooh need to deal with th stuff too?? maybe we need to know we are pretty b/c we dont know it andd yooh to tell us. yes, i know guys havee feelinggs to. but it turns grls off when she knows a guyy needs to know she loves him. we grls are just like that. thats th wayy its supposedd to be. im sorry if it causedd inconvenience fr yooh thou.
If you've ever read the other 96% of magazine articles, they're ll about making your guy feel better about themselves. How to be a better kisser for your guy, how to make your guy feel like a million bucks in bed, how to look this way for your guy, how to make your guy feel like he's number one, and so on and so forth.





I know girls who buy flowers for their boyfriends and buy them gifts every once in a while for no reason. A lot of girls ask their boyfriends to go out. Most don't offer to pay, which is wrong, but they ask them out. Most females are romantic and rack their brains for cute little things to do for their guy just completely out of the blue. A select few guys actually pick up on these things, the rest (probably you) are too busy feeling sorry for themselves that they don't even notice. We don't NEED you to do anything but love us. We like to hear how pretty we are because it comes from you. When our guys tell us they think we're pretty, it proves that they're still into us and that we mean a lot to them. To most girls, it really doesn't even have anything to do with looks.





So you're telling me that guys don't seek appoval and fish for compliments? I don't know what planet you've beamed down from, but that is just not the case. Guys are just as bad as girls. You like to feel all manly and stuff like that and you like to be told how manly you are and how great you make us feel. You like to be told how sexy or how hot we think you are. You like to be told how strong you are.





Why don't YOU stop crying and grow up.
Someone must have broken up with you lately huh? I bet her reason was you did not pay any attention to her or acted like you did not care. You stroke a women's ego, there is a likely chance that your ego will be stroked also. I am a firm believer that a woman should be secure in herself but a man should walk around and act like she does not exist either. There is a very high chance that if you have a secure woman on your hands and you don't attempt to make her happy; she will either do it herself without you or find someone else who will.
becuz wen it comes to men being the one to be there for girls its just ALWAYS been like that!





look ok when it comes to being president guys are ALWAYS the ones its only this year during the election thing that there is a girl....so when it come to things lik that......guys are ALWAYS there....





men have always been more dominant so.....just deal!!!!!!!!
geez, someone's had a bad experience! lol.


its not all girls, or just girls - nothing to do with gender. sorry dude, but uv got a chip on your shoulder





yes there are women who make their man feel special and loved, shield him from unpleasant things, tell white lies to make him feel better, take him out for random suppers or surprise him with flowers! I'm one of them. Don't generalize so much.
You're telling the ladies to grow up but I'm going to tell you to get wise! It's a street that goes both ways and if you don't know that, then you're out of touch. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being complimentary but if it goes too far then it's called being needy. Everyone needs an ego boost now and again and it's not just women who do! Take a look at the other magazines...you don't have to go past the cover to know that there are always tips on relationships and how to make your man feel this or that.





You're pretty right on about the flowers and suppers but women just don't think to do that type of thing and they're not used to shopping at the Craftsman department at Sears either....';Gee, he's feeling down, let me stop on the way home and buy him a new wrench!'; Men %26amp; women think about things very differently...so, get wise and bring home some fowers next time you're out!
Because that's the way it is. Guys suck it up girls don't and the ones who suffer when a girl doesn't feel sexy is the man. If a woman doesn't feel secure with herself, they won't wanna do it. Most guys just naturally have HUGE egos. and anyways, any guy would feel embarassed if his girl bought him flowers and took him out for super for no reason. It would probably make him feel unmanly.





It just works that way. Stop complaining, you guys are better off not needing anyone to tell you you're pretty all the time.





Still, it's not that big of a job, and if you don't want to do it just don't.





I'd like to add that i do surprise my boyfriend sometimes...just to see a smile on his face and i tell him all the time how good looking i think he is. And it doesn't bother me at all to do that. I don't know why it bothers you that much.