Wednesday, August 18, 2010

How do you make your boyfriend not so jealous?

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 6 months now and I am just now figuring out how jealous he is. If i go anywhere guys are at, he acts all weird and doesnt talk to me. His last girlfriend made him not trust anyone. This is why he doesnt trust me, even though i would never cheat on him, i love him too much. What can i do to make him trust me more? We broke up last weekend because i agreed to go to the beach with my friend and her family (friend has older bro, and bringing a friend). Then we got back together, but this weekend we ran into another problem when I went to a reunion party with some kids i hung out with 3 yrs ago. One of my old crushes were there unexpectedly. I invited my bf to go with us, but he felt out of place. When i told him that he ended up going, he started acting wierd again. I went to fix this prob before he breaks up with me again.How do you make your boyfriend not so jealous?
The problem is not what you do (or might do), it's that thing inside his head that keeps saying, ';she's gonna' cheat on you.';


Whether his last gal was a cheater, or he perceived her as one (as he sees you, also), it's HIM with the problem. Jealousy stems from insecurity. You can walk on eggshells for him for years, and he won't change, in fact, his jealousy will deepen, progress, and you'll feel the weight of that like chains upon your heart.


He needs counseling.How do you make your boyfriend not so jealous?
sadly, you can't change him..even if you do show him that he can trust you, he will stay this way..sadly only because of a negative past experience...this is something he has to overcome himself (if he ever does)..so you have to choose, bear it, or beat it...
well trust iz very sacred.I dont think dis guy even deserves if he doesnt trust u being around any other guy.I kno u care about him but i dont think he can change--he's overly protective of u becuz he's afraid of losing u to another guy, maybe he'll always feel that way.
It's not worth it. Im sorry, but if he cant trust you, and doesnt go with you when invited because he would feel uncomfortable, then there is nothing you could do. Dont you want to have a normal life? where you can go out with your friends and family, etc and not have to worry about him getting all weird? I know from experience that there is NOTHING that can be done to gain trust in someone that didnt even have the coutesy to give it to you in the first place. It would be one thing if you broke the trust and are trying to gain it back, but you are having to suffer for what another did to him. Obviously he hasnt let go of the feelings for her. I wouldnt waist my time.
He's taking his baggage of past relationships on your relationship. If you want to be there with him and try to help him get over his issues then go for it but this is his problem. If you do decide to stay by his side, then realize that you won't too happy in the relationship since it seems you can't even hang out with other guys, or friends or anyone for that matter where other guys will be.
As cold as this may sound, you usually are not abel to change a jealous person. Jealousy, however, is often a precursor to an abusive situation later on. it might not be immediate but it will usually occur because eventually the jealousy overcomes the person's rationality and ability to deal with the anger and aggression associated with jealousy. From experience, I would say to get out before you get too invovled in the situation. Best of luck!
Listen, this doesnt sound completely like your boyfriends fault. But it isnt yours either, you should be able to go places without him freaking out. First of all, have oyu talked to him about TRUSt? Because when you really love someone you can trust them too. And if you two have been going out for 6 months thats something that he should have in you. Sometimes patience is all you need. Maybe it will just take him some time to recover from his ex twisted Girlfriends ways. Hope we helped!

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