Friday, August 20, 2010

How to make friends (girlfriend) in college when your shy

i am a shy guy no question about it, i rarely if ever start a conversation unless i have had something to drink.. but i dont want to become an alchoholic just to make friends..





i just got out of a 2 month relationship where it was the best time of my life, i ended things cause i was no longer happy.. i feel more outgoing having gone through the relationship.. but still not wanting to just jump in and talk to people, how should i approach makign friends, i dont know anyone who will be at this school - and i am staying in residence, so the 5 other people i am living with will likely become friendsHow to make friends (girlfriend) in college when your shy
I was shy when I started college too. and the best advice i can give you- Is fake it 'til you make it. Pretend you are not shy, and just talk to the person next to you in class. Even invent a phoney excuse to start a conversation- ';Is this the right room? I'm looking for X....it is? Oh great, I'm Dawn, by the way.';





Its scary, but it gets less scary. and the worst thing they can do is be rude or dismisive of you, and you have to just decide that they are rude and not care. Rejection isnt the end of the world.





I think its tougher for guys, because they cant just launch into a conversation about what shoes you're wearing. But maybe sports??





Also joining clubs is great, volunteering, going to social events. When you've made some friends, organise a get together so they can bring their other friends and you can all become a group.





Good luckHow to make friends (girlfriend) in college when your shy
Start there, with those 5 people. Get to know them, go hang out with them on occasion. Maybe introduce yourself to some of their friends as well. Outside of that, try meeting people in your classes/lectures. Ask someone if they would like to work with you on a homework assignment, and then you can get to know each other over something informal like that. Then, hopefully your relationship will grow from there.
just join a club and meet people that have similar interests as you do. that would be my suggestion but everyone is different
u cant untill u become outward.

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